Okay, so I had a total motherhood flop today.
Caroline will sometimes go into her room and spend minutes on end looking at her books by herself (see video from March).
Inspired by our talk at Tuesday Bible study about quiet times, I decided to try to have a moment to myself to do my Bible study while Caroline was looking at her books. She was already looking at her books and when she came out of her room a few minutes later, I decided to request that she go back to her room and look at her books so mommy could do her Bible study. My parenting books say that "room time" is an option at her age. She should be able to play by herself within a boundary (I don't know why I thought this would work since playpen time never worked for her either).
My sweet, precious child turned around and OBEYED and went into her room. But I could tell that I had completely hurt her feelings because she was crying uncontrollably. And not the "I'm not getting my way" cry. It totally broke my heart.
It occurred to me that maybe she thought she was being disciplined (although we don't use any form of separation in our training process). So I went in to console her, tell her that I loved her (like 20 times), read a book together, and she was happy again. When I left again to go back to my study - more crying. So, Caroline ended up watching "God Made Music" on DVD while we sat together on the couch and I did my Bible study. Hey, whatever works.
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Motherhood flop
Posted by Margaret at 7:02 PM
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5 comments:
That's SO not a flop!!! It's a learning experience!
Aww - I can imagine your heart dropping!! I'd be the same way. Hey, we're all figuring it out!
At least you got your bible study done & you gave her that security & love that God givesu us all :)
you'll both get used to it. :) sounds like you did great.
What book do you read? I'm looking for a good one!
The only thing that would make this a flop is if your heart hadn't broken and you hadn't done your best to fix it. I wish I could tell you differently, but heartbreak will go with the territory from time to time. If you were perfect, how would Caroline learn to handle things when she's not? Give Caroline a kiss for me, and tell Kevin I said to give you a hug for teaching your child about love, learning, mistakes and forgiveness!
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